Want to make your marriage better right now? You can - AND you can do it without involving your spouse! It’s called loving action and it’s the brainchild of couples’ therapist Susan Page. Here’s how to make it work for you:
Promise yourself you won’t make any negative, critical or demanding comments to your partner for one week. I’m not just talking about things like, “Pick up your wet towels for Pete’s sake!” I’m also talking about comments like, “Traffic was terrible today.” Since this exercise is your little secret, you may have to take care of things like picking up wet towels by yourself. But don’t get frustrated! What you’re doing is temporary and the positive effects will last a long time. Why? Because you’ll notice how many negative comments you make without even thinking about it. And once you cut those from your vocabulary - your mood and your mate’s mood will improve. You’ll feel closer and communicate more easily. Next thing you know, your sweetie will be doing things to make your day brighter - WITHOUT you having to ask!
Promise yourself you won’t make any negative, critical or demanding comments to your partner for one week. I’m not just talking about things like, “Pick up your wet towels for Pete’s sake!” I’m also talking about comments like, “Traffic was terrible today.” Since this exercise is your little secret, you may have to take care of things like picking up wet towels by yourself. But don’t get frustrated! What you’re doing is temporary and the positive effects will last a long time. Why? Because you’ll notice how many negative comments you make without even thinking about it. And once you cut those from your vocabulary - your mood and your mate’s mood will improve. You’ll feel closer and communicate more easily. Next thing you know, your sweetie will be doing things to make your day brighter - WITHOUT you having to ask!
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