Children and romance don't mix. Most people think that way. Yet, as
parents, we love our children very much. So why can't a romantic
gesture include the whole family? Well, the answer is it can.
A simple example of how this can be accomplished. Purchase a dozen
roses. Give one or two to each child. Then have each child deliver
their flowers and say somehting like "I know who mommy's boyfriend
is". Send each child individually and wait a few minutes in between.
Then lastly deliver the rest of the flowers yourself.
Thursday
Wednesday
Have Dinner With Your Kids
Parents, want to improve your kids’ grades, their health, and stop them from trying cigarettes, alcohol, and drugs? Then skip the sit down talks and have sit down dinners instead. Here are three reasons to gather ‘round the table:
Family meals make kids healthier. In a University of Minnesota study, teens who ate the most meals with their families while growing up turned into college students who ate the most fruits and vegetables. The same study showed that family meals drastically reduced the risk of kids developing an eating disorder.
Your kids will be smarter. In a study done at Harvard University, younger children who ate with their parents had better vocabularies. Columbia University researchers found that high-schoolers who had dinner with their families got 40 percent more As and Bs than those who didn’t.
Kids who eat with their parents are less likely to try alcohol, cigarettes and drugs. Miriam Weinstein, the author of The Surprising Power of Family Meals, says that kids who don’t sit down to dinner with their family at least three times a week triple their risk of experimenting with alcohol, nicotine or drugs. If you’re thinking, “Good luck getting my kids to sit still for dinner,” check this out: In a national survey, eight out of 10 teens said they preferred eating with their parents.
Family meals make kids healthier. In a University of Minnesota study, teens who ate the most meals with their families while growing up turned into college students who ate the most fruits and vegetables. The same study showed that family meals drastically reduced the risk of kids developing an eating disorder.
Your kids will be smarter. In a study done at Harvard University, younger children who ate with their parents had better vocabularies. Columbia University researchers found that high-schoolers who had dinner with their families got 40 percent more As and Bs than those who didn’t.
Kids who eat with their parents are less likely to try alcohol, cigarettes and drugs. Miriam Weinstein, the author of The Surprising Power of Family Meals, says that kids who don’t sit down to dinner with their family at least three times a week triple their risk of experimenting with alcohol, nicotine or drugs. If you’re thinking, “Good luck getting my kids to sit still for dinner,” check this out: In a national survey, eight out of 10 teens said they preferred eating with their parents.
On This Day
Wednesday, December 23, 2009:
On this day in 1888, Dutch painter Vincent van Gogh, suffering from severe depression, cut off the lower part of his left ear with a razor while staying in Arles, France. He later documented the event in a painting titled Self-Portrait with Bandaged Ear.
On this day in 1913 the U.S. Congress passed the Federal Reserve Act, which established a Federal Reserve Board with power over monetary policy and created the nation’s first central banking system since the 1830s.
On this day in 1975 the Congress of the U.S. passed the Metric Conversion Act. This act declared that the SI (International System of Units) will be this country’s basic system of measurement and established the United States Metric Board, which is responsible for the planning, and coordination of the nation’s voluntary conversion to SI.
Did You Know?
Did you know that the biggest selling Christmas single of all time is Bing Crosby's "White Christmas"?
On this day in 1888, Dutch painter Vincent van Gogh, suffering from severe depression, cut off the lower part of his left ear with a razor while staying in Arles, France. He later documented the event in a painting titled Self-Portrait with Bandaged Ear.
On this day in 1913 the U.S. Congress passed the Federal Reserve Act, which established a Federal Reserve Board with power over monetary policy and created the nation’s first central banking system since the 1830s.
On this day in 1975 the Congress of the U.S. passed the Metric Conversion Act. This act declared that the SI (International System of Units) will be this country’s basic system of measurement and established the United States Metric Board, which is responsible for the planning, and coordination of the nation’s voluntary conversion to SI.
Did You Know?
Did you know that the biggest selling Christmas single of all time is Bing Crosby's "White Christmas"?
Tuesday
5 Minutes to a Better Marriage
Cuddle at the most important time of the day. Most couples fit their cuddles in at the end of the day, but cuddling in the morning is even more rewarding. Why? The physical contact will keep you feeling close to each other all day. So go ahead and set the alarm five minutes early, then snuggle. You can talk, but you don’t have to. The most important part is that you’re holding each other. It’ll help you both start the day feeling loved, and you’ll feel that way all day long.
Ask each other one simple question before you head out the door. For example… Anything special going on today? Talking about the daily details of our lives is just as important to couples as sharing hopes, dreams and fears with each other. The nitty-gritty details determine a lot of how we act and feel on any given day, so asking about them is a great way to build understanding. Then, when you’re together again at the end of the day, ask how that special something—that meeting, phone call to an important client or lunch with a friend went. The results? You’ll feel connected.
Share what you like about each other. If there’s something you appreciate about your spouse, from parenting skills to the way he/she painted the house last month, speak up! Sprinkling five minutes of praise throughout each other’s day is so important for couples. If you start, you’ll enjoy the same treatment from your partner. How does praise work? It reminds people that their spouse loves them. And knowing they’re loved "makes people more willing to iron out differences". ...read more!
Friday
Jealousy
Relationships can be hard to maintain on a healthy level with all the stress of daily life. Why add more stress by adding jealousy into the mix? Jealousy is a waste of energy and time and can even drive your partner toward infidelity. Let's face it, jealousy spawns from only a few reasons. Lack of trust, low self confidence, or you have the hottest guy/gal within 100 miles and don't want anyone to take them away. With that said, no matter how hard you try, how closely you follow their every move, no matter how insanely JEALOUS you become, you cannot stop your partner from straying, if they are determined to do so, like it or not! What can you do you ask? You can be yourself, trust them, until proven otherwise, and direct your attention to making your relationship as refreshing and new as possible. Take pride in the fact that your guy or gal is attractive and appealing enough that other people take interest in them and remind your partner that your still crazy about him or her. In a nutshell, Jealousy is a waste of time!
Thursday
Want to get closer to the one you love?
Here’s how, according to married psychologists John and Julie Gottman. They’ve been studying relationships for so long that 96% of the time, they can predict how healthy a couple’s relationship is by observing them have a three minute conversation. So here are their strategies for connecting.
Be less direct. Now, that doesn’t mean to stifle your feelings, just soften them. The way you start conversations has a big effect on the overall quality of your relationship. If you launch into something with criticisms, contempt or harsh words, it makes your partner withdraw or become defensive. So the next time you need to bring something up, instead of attacking them with “I’m sick of going out with your buddies every weekend!” Try, “I feel like spending time alone together. How ‘bout we have a dinner and movie date on Saturday night?” You partner is more likely to hear what you’re trying to say.
Next, it’s okay to get angry. Anger can spur you to make positive changes. If you hold it in, it’ll build up until you get so resentful that you explode. But anger is not name calling, blaming, or digging up past issues. No one’s going to listen if they feel they’re being criticized or attacked. You need to share responsibility for the problem. Focus on what’s happening now, and focus on the actions that are upsetting you, not the person. Here’s an example: Instead of “You waste all our money and that’s why we can never afford a vacation!” Try, “We should work on a budget so we can afford a vacation. We haven’t been away in 2 years.” Another example: Don’t say, “You haven’t cooked one meal since we’ve been together! Don’t you know how hard it is for me to do everything!” That’s bringing up the past. Instead say, “You said you’d get dinner started but you’re still watching TV.”
Be less direct. Now, that doesn’t mean to stifle your feelings, just soften them. The way you start conversations has a big effect on the overall quality of your relationship. If you launch into something with criticisms, contempt or harsh words, it makes your partner withdraw or become defensive. So the next time you need to bring something up, instead of attacking them with “I’m sick of going out with your buddies every weekend!” Try, “I feel like spending time alone together. How ‘bout we have a dinner and movie date on Saturday night?” You partner is more likely to hear what you’re trying to say.
Next, it’s okay to get angry. Anger can spur you to make positive changes. If you hold it in, it’ll build up until you get so resentful that you explode. But anger is not name calling, blaming, or digging up past issues. No one’s going to listen if they feel they’re being criticized or attacked. You need to share responsibility for the problem. Focus on what’s happening now, and focus on the actions that are upsetting you, not the person. Here’s an example: Instead of “You waste all our money and that’s why we can never afford a vacation!” Try, “We should work on a budget so we can afford a vacation. We haven’t been away in 2 years.” Another example: Don’t say, “You haven’t cooked one meal since we’ve been together! Don’t you know how hard it is for me to do everything!” That’s bringing up the past. Instead say, “You said you’d get dinner started but you’re still watching TV.”
On This Day:
Thursday, December 17, 2009: On this day in 1903 Orville and Wilbur Wright, after three years of experimentation with kites and gliders, achieved the first documented successful powered and controlled flights of an airplane. The flights, near Kitty Hawk, North Carolina piloted first by Orville then by Wilbur Wright, were sustained for less than one minute but represented man’s first powered airplane flight, and the beginning of a new form of transportation.
On this day in 1843, Charles Dickens’ "A Christmas Carol" was published. This holiday classic was published in a print run of 6,000 copies that sold out in one week. By January 6, 1844 another 2,000 copies were sold.
On this day in 1963 the US Congress passed the Clean Air Act, a sweeping set of laws passed to protect the nation from air pollution. This was the first legislation to place pollution controls on the automobile industry.
Did You Know?
Did you know the horse's name in the song Jingle Bells is Bobtail?
On this day in 1843, Charles Dickens’ "A Christmas Carol" was published. This holiday classic was published in a print run of 6,000 copies that sold out in one week. By January 6, 1844 another 2,000 copies were sold.
On this day in 1963 the US Congress passed the Clean Air Act, a sweeping set of laws passed to protect the nation from air pollution. This was the first legislation to place pollution controls on the automobile industry.
Did You Know?
Did you know the horse's name in the song Jingle Bells is Bobtail?
Wednesday
Compliment Your Man
From the time we are ready to date, men hear the same message.
Complement her, be romantic, listen to her, more complements, whisper in her ear, more complements. This is all great, well and good and needed to keep our relationships strong. But, what about the men? Many times, as men age and relationships progress, men need a few complements themselves. Perhaps it’s our own fault. We try so hard to be tough, manly and in control. We don’t want to appear soft or in need of such complements. But, more often than not, we need to have our ego’s stroked through complements. Especially as we age, we want to think we still look young, we’re still attractive, we want to think "WE STILL GOT IT"!
I’m not suggesting every guy wants to be bombarded by sweet nothings, but every once in a while, and with the right timing, complements can do us wonders. Here are a few things a woman can say that will really do the trick:
http://www.abetterus.com/YouMeUs/ComplimentYourMan/tabid/104/Default.aspx
Keep Your Marriage Strong During a Layoff
Over 2.6 million people lost their jobs last year, and the number of married couples affected by job loss has risen to heights not seen since the early 1990s. So, if you or your spouse is unintentionally unemployed, don’t be surprised if your relationship hits a rocky patch. Thierry Guedj, a workplace psychology expert, says that job loss puts a huge financial and emotional strain on a relationship, and even the best marriages are being tested by the recent recession and mass layoffs. In fact, studies show that couples with one partner out of a job are more likely to get divorced within a year. So, here are tips to help you and your marriage survive a financial crisis, courtesy of MSNBC:
Recognize that the tension in your relationship is coming from your money woes, not personality issues. That way, it’ll be easier to deal with.
Then, sit down and calmly discuss what your assets are, and what you owe. Come up with a financial plan to deal with the loss of income – say, canceling the family vacation, selling a car, or borrowing money from your parents.
Brainstorm together to find ways to get another job, like working as a temp in your industry. Or take classes to update your skills. Doing anything constructive will improve your frame of mind.
Also, don’t play the blame game. Instead, be supportive of your spouse’s efforts. In other words, don’t ask over and over if they made phone calls or sent out résumés. That’s nagging. Instead, be their #1 supporter, and say things like, “If you keep at it, it’ll pay off” and “Someone’s going to be lucky to hire you!”
Finally, come up with two action plans. One where you’re able to find a new job within a few months, the other for a worst-case scenario. Say, if you don’t find work within 10 months, you’ll relocate to a more affordable place and start over. Experts say that having a “Plan B” helps you stay focused and gives you instant alternatives if life doesn’t happen according to “Plan A.”
Recognize that the tension in your relationship is coming from your money woes, not personality issues. That way, it’ll be easier to deal with.
Then, sit down and calmly discuss what your assets are, and what you owe. Come up with a financial plan to deal with the loss of income – say, canceling the family vacation, selling a car, or borrowing money from your parents.
Brainstorm together to find ways to get another job, like working as a temp in your industry. Or take classes to update your skills. Doing anything constructive will improve your frame of mind.
Also, don’t play the blame game. Instead, be supportive of your spouse’s efforts. In other words, don’t ask over and over if they made phone calls or sent out résumés. That’s nagging. Instead, be their #1 supporter, and say things like, “If you keep at it, it’ll pay off” and “Someone’s going to be lucky to hire you!”
Finally, come up with two action plans. One where you’re able to find a new job within a few months, the other for a worst-case scenario. Say, if you don’t find work within 10 months, you’ll relocate to a more affordable place and start over. Experts say that having a “Plan B” helps you stay focused and gives you instant alternatives if life doesn’t happen according to “Plan A.”
On This Day:
Wednesday, December 16, 2009: Today, Posadas is celebrated throughout Mexico. Posadas is a nine-day annual celebration with a procession of “pilgrims” who knock on doors asking for posada (shelter). This commemorates the search by Joseph and Mary for a shelter in which the infant Jesus might be born. When pilgrims come inside, the fun and merrymaking ensue with blindfolded guests who try to break a piñata filled with gifts and goodies suspended from the ceiling. Once the piñata breaks, the celebration continues.
Today is the anniversary of the Boston Tea Party. Bostonians emptied the hold of three tea-bearing British ships in the Boston Harbor to protest the British tax on tea imported to the colonies.
On this day in 1944 the Battle of the Bulge began as the Germans advanced into Belgium and Luxembourg.
Did You Know?
Did you know artificial Christmas trees have outsold real ones since 1991?
Today is the anniversary of the Boston Tea Party. Bostonians emptied the hold of three tea-bearing British ships in the Boston Harbor to protest the British tax on tea imported to the colonies.
On this day in 1944 the Battle of the Bulge began as the Germans advanced into Belgium and Luxembourg.
Did You Know?
Did you know artificial Christmas trees have outsold real ones since 1991?
Tuesday
Use Gratitude Each Day to Improve Your Life
Use Gratitude Each Day to Improve Your Life
Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be a once a year deal. You can use the “Thanksgiving Effect” to feel happier year-round. Study after study proves that saying “thanks” regularly can have the same mood boosting benefits as prescription medication – without the negative side effects. In fact, gratitude is so powerful there’s a whole field of research dedicated to it. Dr. Robert Emmons is a leader in the field and the author of The Psychology of Gratitude. He says being grateful increases your chances of being successful in work, love and life. So, here’s how to use gratitude everyday.
The next time you have a small setback – like a fight with a friend/spouse or a stressful assignment from the boss – jot a note to a friend, spouse, kids or relative thanking them for doing something that made you happy. People who do that automatically feel stronger in the face of adversity.
If a friend does you a favor – don’t say “I owe you one.” Being indebted to someone increases feelings of stress. Instead, just say thanks. Data from the Institute of Heart Math shows that people who regularly feel appreciation toward others have healthier heartbeats.
Writing in a gratitude journal is another way to add years to your life, but it doesn’t have to be a huge commitment. People who list the things they’re thankful for only once a week get the same benefits as those who write daily.
You can even use gratitude to reduce your stress on the way to work. People who are stressed out and unhappy at work are more susceptible to heart attack and stroke. You can squash all those negative effects on the way in. No matter how late you’re running, do a gratitude exercise. Focus on everything that’s gone right. The dog did his business outside – your wife looked pretty as she kissed you goodbye – kids made good grades at school - or even that the traffic isn’t at a standstill. Thinking those thoughts will immediately boost your enthusiasm, alertness and energy – and reduce your blood pressure and stress.
Thanksgiving doesn’t have to be a once a year deal. You can use the “Thanksgiving Effect” to feel happier year-round. Study after study proves that saying “thanks” regularly can have the same mood boosting benefits as prescription medication – without the negative side effects. In fact, gratitude is so powerful there’s a whole field of research dedicated to it. Dr. Robert Emmons is a leader in the field and the author of The Psychology of Gratitude. He says being grateful increases your chances of being successful in work, love and life. So, here’s how to use gratitude everyday.
The next time you have a small setback – like a fight with a friend/spouse or a stressful assignment from the boss – jot a note to a friend, spouse, kids or relative thanking them for doing something that made you happy. People who do that automatically feel stronger in the face of adversity.
If a friend does you a favor – don’t say “I owe you one.” Being indebted to someone increases feelings of stress. Instead, just say thanks. Data from the Institute of Heart Math shows that people who regularly feel appreciation toward others have healthier heartbeats.
Writing in a gratitude journal is another way to add years to your life, but it doesn’t have to be a huge commitment. People who list the things they’re thankful for only once a week get the same benefits as those who write daily.
You can even use gratitude to reduce your stress on the way to work. People who are stressed out and unhappy at work are more susceptible to heart attack and stroke. You can squash all those negative effects on the way in. No matter how late you’re running, do a gratitude exercise. Focus on everything that’s gone right. The dog did his business outside – your wife looked pretty as she kissed you goodbye – kids made good grades at school - or even that the traffic isn’t at a standstill. Thinking those thoughts will immediately boost your enthusiasm, alertness and energy – and reduce your blood pressure and stress.
Monday
On This Day
Tuesday, December 15, 2009: On this day in 1791 the first 10 amendments to the US Constitution, known as the Bill of Rights, became effective following the ratification by Virginia. The anniversary of ratification and of effect is observed as the Bill of Rights Day.
Today is “Cat Herders Day.” If you can say that your job - or even you life - is like trying to herd cats, then his day is for you - with our sympathy.
On this day in 2001, Italy’s Leaning Tower of Pisa reopened after a team of experts spent 11 years and $27 million to fortify the tower without eliminating its famous lean.
Did You Know?
Did you know that there are no purple bulbs on a string of Christmas lights? This is because studies show purple is one of the least popular colors among consumers.
Today is “Cat Herders Day.” If you can say that your job - or even you life - is like trying to herd cats, then his day is for you - with our sympathy.
On this day in 2001, Italy’s Leaning Tower of Pisa reopened after a team of experts spent 11 years and $27 million to fortify the tower without eliminating its famous lean.
Did You Know?
Did you know that there are no purple bulbs on a string of Christmas lights? This is because studies show purple is one of the least popular colors among consumers.
Saturday
On This Day:
Friday, December 11, 2009: Today is the United Nations “International Mountain Day.” With mountains covering one-quarter of the Earth’s land surface and home to 12% of the world’s population, mountain people are affected by conflict out of all proportion to their numbers and the land they occupy.
http://www.mountainpartnership.org/
On this day in 1946 the United Nations established the United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund (UNICEF) which provided relief and support to children living in countries devastated by war.
On this day in 1898 the Treaty of Paris was signed in France, which formally ended the Spanish-American war and granted the United States its first overseas empire.
Did You Know?
Did you know that 56% of Americans sing holiday carols to their pets?
http://www.mountainpartnership.org/
On this day in 1946 the United Nations established the United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund (UNICEF) which provided relief and support to children living in countries devastated by war.
On this day in 1898 the Treaty of Paris was signed in France, which formally ended the Spanish-American war and granted the United States its first overseas empire.
Did You Know?
Did you know that 56% of Americans sing holiday carols to their pets?
Friday
Here are The Facts on These Random Statistics.
Tell me if you’ve heard these statistics:
95% of diets fail.
A 40 year old woman is more likely to be killed by a terrorist than to get married.
Or how about this one: Half of all married couples will divorce.
But are these statistics we’ve heard for so long still true? Here’s the real deal from Oprah’s “O” magazine.
We’ll start with the 95% of diets fail. Here’s the truth: 20% of dieters succeed at long-term weight loss. So what’s changed? Well, a lot – because that original statistic came from a study done 45 years ago. And it was wrong to begin with! It came from a 1959 study that found, out of 100 obese patients on diets, 98 percent failed to lose weight or keep it off after two years. The author of the original study, Dr. Albert Stunkard, says he’s shocked that people are still using his old data. The more recent and correct information – the 20% success rate of dieters – was done by researchers at the National Weight Control Registry, and they studied more than 5-thousand diets. So keep that information in mind and aim to become one of the 20%.
Let’s move on to women over 40 being more likely to be shot by a terrorist than to get married. Wrong! Here’s the real deal: A 40 year old woman has a 40% chance of finding a husband. The original information came from a study done 20 years ago by Harvard and Yale and it made big, splashy headlines on the cover of Newsweek. And back then, the chances of getting shot by a terrorist were slim to none. Today, thanks to second marriages, people marrying later in life, and having children later in life, a never-been-married 40 year old has a 40% chance of tying the knot.
And finally, how about this: Half of all married couples will end up divorced. Unfortunately, it’s still true. However, if a couple is over the age of 25 when they marry, and if they wait at least 7 months after the wedding to have their first child, their chance of divorce drops dramatically. In fact, it’s cut in half!
95% of diets fail.
A 40 year old woman is more likely to be killed by a terrorist than to get married.
Or how about this one: Half of all married couples will divorce.
But are these statistics we’ve heard for so long still true? Here’s the real deal from Oprah’s “O” magazine.
We’ll start with the 95% of diets fail. Here’s the truth: 20% of dieters succeed at long-term weight loss. So what’s changed? Well, a lot – because that original statistic came from a study done 45 years ago. And it was wrong to begin with! It came from a 1959 study that found, out of 100 obese patients on diets, 98 percent failed to lose weight or keep it off after two years. The author of the original study, Dr. Albert Stunkard, says he’s shocked that people are still using his old data. The more recent and correct information – the 20% success rate of dieters – was done by researchers at the National Weight Control Registry, and they studied more than 5-thousand diets. So keep that information in mind and aim to become one of the 20%.
Let’s move on to women over 40 being more likely to be shot by a terrorist than to get married. Wrong! Here’s the real deal: A 40 year old woman has a 40% chance of finding a husband. The original information came from a study done 20 years ago by Harvard and Yale and it made big, splashy headlines on the cover of Newsweek. And back then, the chances of getting shot by a terrorist were slim to none. Today, thanks to second marriages, people marrying later in life, and having children later in life, a never-been-married 40 year old has a 40% chance of tying the knot.
And finally, how about this: Half of all married couples will end up divorced. Unfortunately, it’s still true. However, if a couple is over the age of 25 when they marry, and if they wait at least 7 months after the wedding to have their first child, their chance of divorce drops dramatically. In fact, it’s cut in half!
On This Day:
Friday, December 11, 2009: Today is the United Nations “International Mountain Day.” With mountains covering one-quarter of the Earth’s land surface and home to 12% of the world’s population, mountain people are affected by conflict out of all proportion to their numbers and the land they occupy.
http://www.mountainpartnership.org/
On this day in 1946 the United Nations established the United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund (UNICEF) which provided relief and support to children living in countries devastated by war.
On this day in 1898 the Treaty of Paris was signed in France, which formally ended the Spanish-American war and granted the United States its first overseas empire.
Did You Know?
Did you know that 56% of Americans sing holiday carols to their pets?
http://www.mountainpartnership.org/
On this day in 1946 the United Nations established the United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund (UNICEF) which provided relief and support to children living in countries devastated by war.
On this day in 1898 the Treaty of Paris was signed in France, which formally ended the Spanish-American war and granted the United States its first overseas empire.
Did You Know?
Did you know that 56% of Americans sing holiday carols to their pets?
Thursday
The power of two.
It's one of the great things about being in a committed relationship. When there's dry cleaning to pick up, groceries to buy, a dog to walk, a UPS truck that's expected, a lawn that needs mowing, a kid with a tummy ache, windows to wash, and dinner to prepare, having someone share the load makes life a lot easier.How much easier it is to deal with turbulent times when there's somebody on your side who believes in you, gently nudges you forward, cheers you on, and has pride in your accomplishments.
Is there a time in your relationship when your sweetheart made a difference in your life? If so, then remember this: When your sweetheart is cranky and irritable, or scared and insecure, or for whatever reason is less than the cheerful, high-on-life love bug you've come to know, you've got an opportunity to return the favor. Take a deep breath, avoid knee jerk reactions, and be a supportive partner whether the situation is monumental or nothing more than irritation at having gotten a speeding ticket. Being a supportive partner sometimes means sitting silently while your sweetheart vents. Sometimes it means encouragement to offset insecurity. Sometimes it means being brave even when you, too, are afraid. And sometimes it just means loving your partner through his or her bad behavior.
Is there a time in your relationship when your sweetheart made a difference in your life? If so, then remember this: When your sweetheart is cranky and irritable, or scared and insecure, or for whatever reason is less than the cheerful, high-on-life love bug you've come to know, you've got an opportunity to return the favor. Take a deep breath, avoid knee jerk reactions, and be a supportive partner whether the situation is monumental or nothing more than irritation at having gotten a speeding ticket. Being a supportive partner sometimes means sitting silently while your sweetheart vents. Sometimes it means encouragement to offset insecurity. Sometimes it means being brave even when you, too, are afraid. And sometimes it just means loving your partner through his or her bad behavior.
Banish the Boredom From Your Marriage
Want to strengthen your marriage? Then banish everyday boredom by doing new and interesting things together on a regular basis. Why? Because studies show that dull days that feel like you’re in a rut can kill a marriage faster than fighting.
According to MSNBC, researchers at State University of New York found that bored couples are significantly more likely to get divorced than couples who still find each other entertaining after many years of marriage. The 16-year study also found that shared challenges and exciting diversions are what make relationships simmer long after you say “I do.” In another study at Rutgers University, researchers gave MRIs to couples who were newly in love – as well as those who claimed they were still madly in love after 20 years of marriage. The result? When both types of couples looked at pictures of their spouses, the same parts of the brain lit up, the part linked to feelings of reward, excitement and satisfaction.
So, how can you battle boredom? Marriage counselor Dr. Barbara Bartlik says not to blame it on your partner. Instead, make yourself more exciting and interesting, whether you find a new hobby, take up a sport, or attend classes at the local university. Better yet, try to find something you’re both passionate about that you can share. Dr. Bartlik says that sharing novel and thrilling experiences with your partner creates brain chemistry similar to that “falling-in-love” feeling. Doing something a little scary – like riding a rollercoaster, hang gliding or bungee jumping – will give you a surge of adrenaline that’ll help you bond even more. If you’re not a daredevil, not to worry. Doing anything novel will do. For example, ride bicycles together after dark instead of during the day, stop for dinner someplace you’ve never been, or be completely spontaneous, and jump on a train or a bus without deciding where you’re going to get off.
According to MSNBC, researchers at State University of New York found that bored couples are significantly more likely to get divorced than couples who still find each other entertaining after many years of marriage. The 16-year study also found that shared challenges and exciting diversions are what make relationships simmer long after you say “I do.” In another study at Rutgers University, researchers gave MRIs to couples who were newly in love – as well as those who claimed they were still madly in love after 20 years of marriage. The result? When both types of couples looked at pictures of their spouses, the same parts of the brain lit up, the part linked to feelings of reward, excitement and satisfaction.
So, how can you battle boredom? Marriage counselor Dr. Barbara Bartlik says not to blame it on your partner. Instead, make yourself more exciting and interesting, whether you find a new hobby, take up a sport, or attend classes at the local university. Better yet, try to find something you’re both passionate about that you can share. Dr. Bartlik says that sharing novel and thrilling experiences with your partner creates brain chemistry similar to that “falling-in-love” feeling. Doing something a little scary – like riding a rollercoaster, hang gliding or bungee jumping – will give you a surge of adrenaline that’ll help you bond even more. If you’re not a daredevil, not to worry. Doing anything novel will do. For example, ride bicycles together after dark instead of during the day, stop for dinner someplace you’ve never been, or be completely spontaneous, and jump on a train or a bus without deciding where you’re going to get off.
On This Day:
On This Day:
Thursday, December 10, 2009: Today marks the beginning of “Human Rights Week,” and today was officially declared “Human Rights Day” by the United Nations. It marks the anniversary of the adoption of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights in 1948 which sets forth basic rights and fundamental freedoms to which all men and women in the world are entitled to.
http://www.un.org/
It is also the annual Nobel Prize awards ceremonies which are held in Norway and Sweden. Alfred Nobel, Swedish chemist and inventor of dynamite who died in 1896, provided in his will that income from his $9 million estate should be used for annual prizes-to be awarded to people who are judged to have made the most valuable contributions to the good of humanity.
On this day in 1869 Wyoming becomes the first state to adopt woman suffrage.
Did You Know?
Did you know the popular holiday song "Jingle Bells" was actually written for Thanksgiving? The song was composed in 1857 by James Pierpont, and was originally called "One Horse Open Sleigh."
Thursday, December 10, 2009: Today marks the beginning of “Human Rights Week,” and today was officially declared “Human Rights Day” by the United Nations. It marks the anniversary of the adoption of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights in 1948 which sets forth basic rights and fundamental freedoms to which all men and women in the world are entitled to.
http://www.un.org/
It is also the annual Nobel Prize awards ceremonies which are held in Norway and Sweden. Alfred Nobel, Swedish chemist and inventor of dynamite who died in 1896, provided in his will that income from his $9 million estate should be used for annual prizes-to be awarded to people who are judged to have made the most valuable contributions to the good of humanity.
On this day in 1869 Wyoming becomes the first state to adopt woman suffrage.
Did You Know?
Did you know the popular holiday song "Jingle Bells" was actually written for Thanksgiving? The song was composed in 1857 by James Pierpont, and was originally called "One Horse Open Sleigh."
Wednesday
Are You Thinking About Having Kids?
Parents, we need to talk about your marital relationship. Over the last two decades, 25 separate studies have found that marital happiness tends to drop after a child comes into the picture and the strain of raising children is a major reason why many couples file for divorce. Fortunately, there’s a new study we want to share with you. The study comes from two sociologists at the University of California at Berkeley - Philip and Carolyn Cowan. They found that the couples who had the most troubled marriages after kids came on the scene were the ones who quote “slid” into parenthood. They weren’t expecting to conceive, didn’t feel ready for kids, or one partner wanted them – the other wasn’t sure, but gave in for the sake of the relationship. However, when both partners wanted kids – and they were planned for – marital happiness grew afterward. However, for the couples in trouble, or ones thinking about having kids, here are two myths you need to know the truth about:
Myth #1: Having children will solve your marital problems. The reality is that children can magnify problems. That’s why it’s vital to feel stable in your marriage before you think about starting a family.
Myth #2: Traditional gender roles are best after the kids are born. As in, ‘Mom should stay home while Dad works.’ The truth is: That’s one of the biggest factors in marital dissatisfaction. The Cowans found that when couples had kids – and the wife stopped working – both partners became discontent. The wife typically became resentful that the husband wasn’t involved in child care and the husband often resented his wife for having to be the sole breadwinner.
So what’s the solution? Psychologist Joshua Coleman says married couples need to make each other happy before they think about making a child happy. Because kids are happier and do better socially and academically when their parents are happy – even if that means the parents are spending less time with them. That’s a fact! So take advantage of in-laws and babysitters, and set aside time each week that doesn’t involve children. Psychologist Coleman puts it this way: The airline warning to put on your own oxygen mask before you place one on your child also holds true for marriage.
Myth #1: Having children will solve your marital problems. The reality is that children can magnify problems. That’s why it’s vital to feel stable in your marriage before you think about starting a family.
Myth #2: Traditional gender roles are best after the kids are born. As in, ‘Mom should stay home while Dad works.’ The truth is: That’s one of the biggest factors in marital dissatisfaction. The Cowans found that when couples had kids – and the wife stopped working – both partners became discontent. The wife typically became resentful that the husband wasn’t involved in child care and the husband often resented his wife for having to be the sole breadwinner.
So what’s the solution? Psychologist Joshua Coleman says married couples need to make each other happy before they think about making a child happy. Because kids are happier and do better socially and academically when their parents are happy – even if that means the parents are spending less time with them. That’s a fact! So take advantage of in-laws and babysitters, and set aside time each week that doesn’t involve children. Psychologist Coleman puts it this way: The airline warning to put on your own oxygen mask before you place one on your child also holds true for marriage.
On This Day:
Wednesday, December 9, 2009: On this day in 1992, 1,800 United States Marines arrived in Mogadishu, Somalia to spearhead a multinational force aimed at restoring order in the conflict-ridden country.
On this day in 2002 United Airlines filed for bankruptcy. This was the biggest bankruptcy in aviation history with United losing 4 billion dollars in the previous two years.
On this day in 1992 British Prime Minister John Major announced the formal separation of Charles, Prince of Wales and heir to the British throne, and his wife, Princess Diana. Major explained that the royal couple was separating “amicably.”
Did You Know?
Did you know that an artificial spider and web are often included in the decorations on Ukrainian Christmas trees? A spider web found on Christmas morning is believed to bring good luck
On this day in 2002 United Airlines filed for bankruptcy. This was the biggest bankruptcy in aviation history with United losing 4 billion dollars in the previous two years.
On this day in 1992 British Prime Minister John Major announced the formal separation of Charles, Prince of Wales and heir to the British throne, and his wife, Princess Diana. Major explained that the royal couple was separating “amicably.”
Did You Know?
Did you know that an artificial spider and web are often included in the decorations on Ukrainian Christmas trees? A spider web found on Christmas morning is believed to bring good luck
Tuesday
Couples Are Saying "I Don't" to Expensive Weddings
According to USA Today, the recession has caused many couples to plan less expensive weddings. A recent survey by wedding website The Knot found that 40 percent of brides have reduced their budgets. Since so many couples are trying to cut costs, they’re coming up with creative ways to make their wedding less expensive. For example, some people are renting jewelry for their wedding instead of buying it. Or making their own decorations with items they find at craft and thrift stores. Couples are also choosing to have their weddings on Fridays or Sundays – instead of Saturdays, which are often more expensive. When it comes to food, some couples are skipping the fancy catered meals and creating cheese and vegetables plates with the help of their local supermarket.
Other couples are saving money by putting their negotiating skills to good use. One bride mentioned in the article got quotes from five different florists, then took the lowest quote to her favorite shop and asked if they could help her. She ended up getting a price that was LESS than the quote she gave them. Wedding planner Jung Lee says she knows of wedding photographers who are cutting their fees in half just to get some jobs.
Couples are also trying to make their wedding less expensive for their guests, too – because they know times are tough. Brides and grooms are choosing to register at stores where there are plenty of low-price gift items – like Target and Wal-Mart. They’re also paying for rented bridesmaid dresses instead of making their bridesmaids buy dresses and pay for alterations on them – when they’ll never be worn again. Antonia van der Meer – who’s editor-in-chief of Modern Bride magazine – puts it this way: Today’s bride typically is the opposite of a bridezilla.
If you’re planning a wedding – and would like to save some money – don’t be afraid to haggle with the photographer or the florist. As long as you’re nice, it never hurts to ask for a lower price. If you’d like more inexpensive wedding ideas, check out myDIYweddingday.com. The “DIY” stands for “do-it-yourself.”
Other couples are saving money by putting their negotiating skills to good use. One bride mentioned in the article got quotes from five different florists, then took the lowest quote to her favorite shop and asked if they could help her. She ended up getting a price that was LESS than the quote she gave them. Wedding planner Jung Lee says she knows of wedding photographers who are cutting their fees in half just to get some jobs.
Couples are also trying to make their wedding less expensive for their guests, too – because they know times are tough. Brides and grooms are choosing to register at stores where there are plenty of low-price gift items – like Target and Wal-Mart. They’re also paying for rented bridesmaid dresses instead of making their bridesmaids buy dresses and pay for alterations on them – when they’ll never be worn again. Antonia van der Meer – who’s editor-in-chief of Modern Bride magazine – puts it this way: Today’s bride typically is the opposite of a bridezilla.
If you’re planning a wedding – and would like to save some money – don’t be afraid to haggle with the photographer or the florist. As long as you’re nice, it never hurts to ask for a lower price. If you’d like more inexpensive wedding ideas, check out myDIYweddingday.com. The “DIY” stands for “do-it-yourself.”
On This Day:
Tuesday, December 8, 2009: On this day in 1941, one day after the surprise Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor, Congress declared war against Japan and the US entered World War II.
On this day in 1980 deranged gunman Mark David Chapman shot and killed rock star John Lennon outside his apartment building as he returned home from a recording session. The death of the former Beatle, who was an international peace activist, shocked the world. His widow, Yoko Ono asked for 10 minutes of silence at 2 PM on the following Sunday, and many US and international radio stations observed it.
On this day in 1987 the former Soviet Union and the US signed a treaty in Washington eliminating medium-range and shorter-range missiles. This was the first treaty completely eliminating two entire classes of nuclear arms. These missiles, with a range of 500 to 5,500 kilometers, were to be scrapped under strict supervision within three years of signing.
Did You Know?
Did you know that before World War II, Twinkies used to have banana cream in them? Because of the battle at Pearl Harbor, the U.S. had a shortage of bananas and had to switch to plain vanilla. It's been that way ever since then.
On this day in 1980 deranged gunman Mark David Chapman shot and killed rock star John Lennon outside his apartment building as he returned home from a recording session. The death of the former Beatle, who was an international peace activist, shocked the world. His widow, Yoko Ono asked for 10 minutes of silence at 2 PM on the following Sunday, and many US and international radio stations observed it.
On this day in 1987 the former Soviet Union and the US signed a treaty in Washington eliminating medium-range and shorter-range missiles. This was the first treaty completely eliminating two entire classes of nuclear arms. These missiles, with a range of 500 to 5,500 kilometers, were to be scrapped under strict supervision within three years of signing.
Did You Know?
Did you know that before World War II, Twinkies used to have banana cream in them? Because of the battle at Pearl Harbor, the U.S. had a shortage of bananas and had to switch to plain vanilla. It's been that way ever since then.
Monday
4 steps for making sure your marriage gets better instead of worse.
For better or for worse, your marriage is constantly changing! But successful couples stay close no matter what happens - and that’s no accident. It takes planning and effort…… That’s why I have these 4 steps for making sure your marriage gets better instead of worse, courtesy of Glee Magazine:
First: Make your marriage the priority. Between kids and work, it’s easy to get so busy that you put your marriage on hold - but it should be the center of everything you do. When it suffers, so does everything else. Spending time with your spouse is the most important job you have to do each day.
The 2nd step to a successful marriage: Try new things as a couple. Remember when you were getting to know each other and everything was new? Get that feeling back! You don’t have to take up sky-diving. Try cooking a meal you’ve never cooked before. As long as it’s new, and you’re doing it together, you’ll be giving your marriage what it needs to thrive.
The 3rd secret to a successful marriage: Hang onto something from your single life. Many marriages run into trouble because people believe they have to do EVERYTHING as a couple. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in each other that you drop off the office softball team or miss movie night with your single friends. But eventually, that breeds resentment. So keep doing the things you love to do on your own.
And the last step to a successful marriage: Ask your spouse for advice! If you find yourself with problems you don’t feel you can share with your partner - you’re in trouble. Being able to talk things out is the foundation of a great marriage. And this is especially true for men. According to marriage expert John Gottmann, the SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT predictor of marital success is a husband’s willingness to listen to his wife.
So to review – the 4 things you need for solid marriage are: Making the marriage a priority, trying new things as a couple, hanging on to the interests you had when you were single, and being able to talk things through with your spouse.
First: Make your marriage the priority. Between kids and work, it’s easy to get so busy that you put your marriage on hold - but it should be the center of everything you do. When it suffers, so does everything else. Spending time with your spouse is the most important job you have to do each day.
The 2nd step to a successful marriage: Try new things as a couple. Remember when you were getting to know each other and everything was new? Get that feeling back! You don’t have to take up sky-diving. Try cooking a meal you’ve never cooked before. As long as it’s new, and you’re doing it together, you’ll be giving your marriage what it needs to thrive.
The 3rd secret to a successful marriage: Hang onto something from your single life. Many marriages run into trouble because people believe they have to do EVERYTHING as a couple. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in each other that you drop off the office softball team or miss movie night with your single friends. But eventually, that breeds resentment. So keep doing the things you love to do on your own.
And the last step to a successful marriage: Ask your spouse for advice! If you find yourself with problems you don’t feel you can share with your partner - you’re in trouble. Being able to talk things out is the foundation of a great marriage. And this is especially true for men. According to marriage expert John Gottmann, the SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT predictor of marital success is a husband’s willingness to listen to his wife.
So to review – the 4 things you need for solid marriage are: Making the marriage a priority, trying new things as a couple, hanging on to the interests you had when you were single, and being able to talk things through with your spouse.
On This Day:
Monday, December 7, 2009: Today is National Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day. On this day in 1941, nearly 200 Japanese aircraft attacked Pearl Harbor in Hawaii where almost the entire US Pacific Fleet was anchored. The attack brought about the immediate US entry into World War II.
On this day in 1979 the National Fire Safety Council was founded to promote fire and burn prevention and life safety awareness. The council distributes comprehensive material to children and adults through local fire departments and the Council's mascot, Firepup.
On this day in 1988 an earthquake measuring 6.9 on the Richter scale rocked the Soviet province of Armenia killing upward of 60,000 people. In the quakes aftermath, Soviet President Mikhail Gorbachev cut short his trip to the US to fly home and head the massive worldwide relief efforts.
Did You Know?
Did you know that nearly one in four people say they have more headaches during the Christmas season than any other time of the year? Of those surveyed, 75% said that not having enough time caused them to have headaches, 73% said crowds and traffic created their headaches, and 51% said skipping meals gave them headaches.
On this day in 1979 the National Fire Safety Council was founded to promote fire and burn prevention and life safety awareness. The council distributes comprehensive material to children and adults through local fire departments and the Council's mascot, Firepup.
On this day in 1988 an earthquake measuring 6.9 on the Richter scale rocked the Soviet province of Armenia killing upward of 60,000 people. In the quakes aftermath, Soviet President Mikhail Gorbachev cut short his trip to the US to fly home and head the massive worldwide relief efforts.
Did You Know?
Did you know that nearly one in four people say they have more headaches during the Christmas season than any other time of the year? Of those surveyed, 75% said that not having enough time caused them to have headaches, 73% said crowds and traffic created their headaches, and 51% said skipping meals gave them headaches.
Friday
There's a New Dating Site That Sets You Up The Same Day You Sign Up
These days, we're all about instant gratification. We have movies on demand, TIVO, fast food. Anything we want we can have it in a second. Now online dating is following the instant “I want it now” trend. According to the Boston Globe, a new company called Crazy Blind Date is specializing in blind dates the same day you sign up! On their site, there's no filling out compatibility profiles, or spending days waiting for someone to “wink” at you. Instead, you register on the site, list any dating restrictions like age or non-smoking, and within an hour they send you and email with the time and place that you'll meet your date, THAT NIGHT!
Can you really make a love match without knowing if you and your date have anything in common? The people behind Crazy Blind Date say you can. They say their service brings the spontaneity back into dating. It's more like the good ol' days when people met randomly, and didn't already know each other’s hobbies and favorite bands before they went on a date. So far Crazy Blind date is in about eight major cities and it's still free. Whether you use that service, or something more established like eHarmony, take a precautions. After all you are meeting a total stranger.
So make sure you meet in a public place – drive yourself – and make sure a friend or family member knows where you’ll be and with whom and when you expect to be home. Never get in a car with a stranger – even if they say, “Hey, want to go check out a new jazz club downtown?” Drive yourself! Go with your gut; if you get a weird vibe, get out fast. Also, as we’ve mentioned recently, you can find out if the person is married or a convicted felon by checking them out on a new cell phone application called Date Check. You just enter their name, phone number or email address into the program and any black marks on their record will pop up! The best thing is you can do it while they're in the bathroom and they'll be none the wiser!
Can you really make a love match without knowing if you and your date have anything in common? The people behind Crazy Blind Date say you can. They say their service brings the spontaneity back into dating. It's more like the good ol' days when people met randomly, and didn't already know each other’s hobbies and favorite bands before they went on a date. So far Crazy Blind date is in about eight major cities and it's still free. Whether you use that service, or something more established like eHarmony, take a precautions. After all you are meeting a total stranger.
So make sure you meet in a public place – drive yourself – and make sure a friend or family member knows where you’ll be and with whom and when you expect to be home. Never get in a car with a stranger – even if they say, “Hey, want to go check out a new jazz club downtown?” Drive yourself! Go with your gut; if you get a weird vibe, get out fast. Also, as we’ve mentioned recently, you can find out if the person is married or a convicted felon by checking them out on a new cell phone application called Date Check. You just enter their name, phone number or email address into the program and any black marks on their record will pop up! The best thing is you can do it while they're in the bathroom and they'll be none the wiser!
On This Day:
Friday, December 4, 2009: On this day in 1991, Islamic militants in Lebanon released kidnapped American journalist Terry Anderson after 2.454 days in captivity. Anderson returned to the U.S. and was reunited with his family, including his daughter Suleme, born three months after his capture.
On this day in 1945 the U.S. Senate approved full U.S. participation in the United Nations, in an overwhelming vote of 65 to 7. The United Nations officially came into existence on October 24, 1945, when its charter was ratified by China, France, the Soviet Union, The United Kingdom, the United States and a majority of other signatories.
On this day in 1992 President George H. Bush ordered 28,000 troops to Somalia. In a military mission he described it as “God’s work,” Bush said that America must act to save more than a million Somali lives, but reassured Americans that “this operation is not open-ended.” Unfortunately, America’s humanitarian troops became embroiled in Somalia’s political conflict, and this controversial mission stretched on for 15 months before being abruptly called off by President Bill Clinton in 1993.
Did You Know?
Did you know "60 Minutes" is the only show on CBS that doesn’t have a theme song?
On this day in 1945 the U.S. Senate approved full U.S. participation in the United Nations, in an overwhelming vote of 65 to 7. The United Nations officially came into existence on October 24, 1945, when its charter was ratified by China, France, the Soviet Union, The United Kingdom, the United States and a majority of other signatories.
On this day in 1992 President George H. Bush ordered 28,000 troops to Somalia. In a military mission he described it as “God’s work,” Bush said that America must act to save more than a million Somali lives, but reassured Americans that “this operation is not open-ended.” Unfortunately, America’s humanitarian troops became embroiled in Somalia’s political conflict, and this controversial mission stretched on for 15 months before being abruptly called off by President Bill Clinton in 1993.
Did You Know?
Did you know "60 Minutes" is the only show on CBS that doesn’t have a theme song?
Thursday
What's the only kind of lie you should tell your spouse?
The little white kind. That's according to Dr. Judith Sills, author of The Comfort Trap (or, What if You're Riding a Dead Horse?). She points out that relationships are based on the truth. Relationships are also about not hurting your partner, unless it can't be helped. And that's where white lies come in. They protect the feelings of the person you love. So, here are 3 little white lies to put in your arsenal:
First, if your spouse ever asks: "If we were on a sinking ship, who would you save first me or your mother?" The only proper answer is: "You. Absolutely, I would save you first."
"Does this make me look fat?" Guys don't answer that question with anything but: "Honey, you look great!"
And the final question that requires a little white lie is: "If I were dead, which of my friends would you want to date?" The reply to that one is "Are you kidding? I wouldn't want to date any of them! I'd be overcome with grief."
But when you tell lies simply to protect yourself, there are two big problems:
One, a lie's just a quick fix. And it keeps you from solving your problems. For example, differences in parenting styles. Maybe your husband is strict with the kids, but the minute he's gone, you let the kids go wild. And when he asks how they behaved, you lie and say he would have been proud of them. But an honest discussion would allow you to compromise or test which parenting style works best. You might learn to respect your spouse's firmer style, and he might see the wisdom of relaxing some rules.
Second and even more important - lies used to avoid conflict usually make a problem worse. For example, catching your spouse with a cigarette after they said they quit smoking makes you think: "What else don't I know about?" Bottom line: if you want love and trust in your relationship, you must be honest with your partner as much as possible.
If you'd like to go further, the book is The Comfort Trap (or, What if You're Riding a Dead Horse?) by Dr. Judith Sills.
First, if your spouse ever asks: "If we were on a sinking ship, who would you save first me or your mother?" The only proper answer is: "You. Absolutely, I would save you first."
"Does this make me look fat?" Guys don't answer that question with anything but: "Honey, you look great!"
And the final question that requires a little white lie is: "If I were dead, which of my friends would you want to date?" The reply to that one is "Are you kidding? I wouldn't want to date any of them! I'd be overcome with grief."
But when you tell lies simply to protect yourself, there are two big problems:
One, a lie's just a quick fix. And it keeps you from solving your problems. For example, differences in parenting styles. Maybe your husband is strict with the kids, but the minute he's gone, you let the kids go wild. And when he asks how they behaved, you lie and say he would have been proud of them. But an honest discussion would allow you to compromise or test which parenting style works best. You might learn to respect your spouse's firmer style, and he might see the wisdom of relaxing some rules.
Second and even more important - lies used to avoid conflict usually make a problem worse. For example, catching your spouse with a cigarette after they said they quit smoking makes you think: "What else don't I know about?" Bottom line: if you want love and trust in your relationship, you must be honest with your partner as much as possible.
If you'd like to go further, the book is The Comfort Trap (or, What if You're Riding a Dead Horse?) by Dr. Judith Sills.
On This Day:
Thursday, December 3, 2009: On this day in 1967 Dr. Christiaan Barnard, a South African surgeon, performed the world’s first successful heart transplantation at Cape Town, South Africa. The patient, Lois Washkansky, survived for 18 days.
Today is the anniversary of the Bhopal Poison Gas Disaster. On this day in 1984 at Bhopal, India, a leak of deadly gas (methyl isocyanate) at a Union Carbide Corp plant killed more than 4,000 persons and injured more than 200,000 in the world’s worst industrial accident.
On this day in 1947 Tennessee Williams’ drama, A Streetcar Named Desire opened on Broadway at the Ethel Barrymore Theatre with Jessica Tandy and newcomer Marlon Brando. Williams was already a Broadway star with his first play, Glass Menagerie, and Streetcar was to be equally successful; it ran for two years and won the Pulitzer Prize for Drama.
Did You Know?
Did you know sleeping with socks can help you live longer? Sleep experts say wearing socks provides extra warmth to your feet, which improves your circulation and gets the body ready for deep sleep. When you sleep deeply, your growth hormone kicks in and your body repairs itself.
Today is the anniversary of the Bhopal Poison Gas Disaster. On this day in 1984 at Bhopal, India, a leak of deadly gas (methyl isocyanate) at a Union Carbide Corp plant killed more than 4,000 persons and injured more than 200,000 in the world’s worst industrial accident.
On this day in 1947 Tennessee Williams’ drama, A Streetcar Named Desire opened on Broadway at the Ethel Barrymore Theatre with Jessica Tandy and newcomer Marlon Brando. Williams was already a Broadway star with his first play, Glass Menagerie, and Streetcar was to be equally successful; it ran for two years and won the Pulitzer Prize for Drama.
Did You Know?
Did you know sleeping with socks can help you live longer? Sleep experts say wearing socks provides extra warmth to your feet, which improves your circulation and gets the body ready for deep sleep. When you sleep deeply, your growth hormone kicks in and your body repairs itself.
Wednesday
How Much Time Does the Average Mother Spend Getting Ready for Christmas?
Would you believe, 13 whole days! According to a study written up in the London Daily Mail, mom’s preparations include 288 hours of making lists, figuring out where to find the desired items, and doing the actual shopping. Then, she spends an average of four hours wrapping gifts, three hours decorating the house, nine hours planning, cooking and serving Christmas dinner, and 11 hours cleaning up after the celebration, which includes taking down the tree and the decorations. And what does a hard-working mother get for all that backbreaking work? A Christmas dinner that lasts an average of two hours and 13 minutes. No wonder one in five moms say they dread the holidays! Here are some other surprising statistics:
Two out of three moms find the holidays stressful.
29% of them start planning for Christmas in September, so they can get all the work done.
46% of moms bought things during last January’s sales to get ready for this Christmas.
The good news is: 70% of mothers say that all the trouble to prepare for Christmas is worth it. Why? Because their families are happy!
So, want to give your mother a great Christmas gift? Offer to help out with the shopping, cooking, decorating and cleanup duties. Remember, the spirit of the season is about appreciating one another and spreading good cheer. Not accumulating more “stuff” and more stress.
Two out of three moms find the holidays stressful.
29% of them start planning for Christmas in September, so they can get all the work done.
46% of moms bought things during last January’s sales to get ready for this Christmas.
The good news is: 70% of mothers say that all the trouble to prepare for Christmas is worth it. Why? Because their families are happy!
So, want to give your mother a great Christmas gift? Offer to help out with the shopping, cooking, decorating and cleanup duties. Remember, the spirit of the season is about appreciating one another and spreading good cheer. Not accumulating more “stuff” and more stress.
On This Day:
Wednesday, December 2, 2009: Today marks the annual lighting of the Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center in New York City. More than 30,000 lights are strung on five miles of electric wire.
Today marks the beginning of “Operation Santa Paws.” During the holiday season, extra help is needed for abused and abandoned animals in the care of local animal shelters. Operation Santa Paws is helping by spearheading a drive to benefit less fortunate pets.
http://operationsantapaws.com/
On this day in 2001 the Houston-based company Enron filed for bankruptcy. Subsequent investigations revealed questionable accounting practices and unethical dealings, to the extent that “Enron” became the buzzword for corporate malfeasance of the late 1990s and into the 21st century.
Did You Know?
Did you know that mints actually try to make coins look ugly? This is because if they make pretty coins, people will keep them, and the coin will eventually go out of circulation. Then, the mint would have to create a new coin.
Today marks the beginning of “Operation Santa Paws.” During the holiday season, extra help is needed for abused and abandoned animals in the care of local animal shelters. Operation Santa Paws is helping by spearheading a drive to benefit less fortunate pets.
http://operationsantapaws.com/
On this day in 2001 the Houston-based company Enron filed for bankruptcy. Subsequent investigations revealed questionable accounting practices and unethical dealings, to the extent that “Enron” became the buzzword for corporate malfeasance of the late 1990s and into the 21st century.
Did You Know?
Did you know that mints actually try to make coins look ugly? This is because if they make pretty coins, people will keep them, and the coin will eventually go out of circulation. Then, the mint would have to create a new coin.
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